We only get one life. If something isn’t making you happy, change it. It really IS that simple. I never could have imagined nine years ago when I was out of work and lost that today I’d be making my living, and quite a good one at that, as a full-time freelance writer. When you work hard and have integrity sometimes your dreams do come true.
I never could have imagined five years ago, when I was recovering from a bad back injury that laid me up for four weeks, (I had to slither along on my stomach to the bathroom and spend 30 min trying to pull myself up while in excruciating pain because I could not actually move my legs) that I’d be the runner I am today, that I’d have 34 half marathons (so far) under my belt, two full marathons, and plans to add another 10 half marathons and two full marathons over the next 12 months.
There was a time, not that long ago, when I could not see how I could get my life back on track. But I did, and if you are struggling, know that you can too. You must be true to yourself. Listen to yourself. Trust yourself. Know that when something doesn’t feel right, there is a reason. Don’t try to push something that isn’t working to force it to work. It isn’t working for a reason.
Instead, step back and examine why you are forcing a situation, job, relationship, or friendship so hard. Stop blaming others. Stop blaming yourself. Sometimes jobs and relationships and friendships and THINGS in general don’t work out. Just because they haven’t worked out yet doesn’t mean anything. And by the way, that sense of entitlement and chip on your shoulder over what you SHOULD have is doing nothing but holding you back. One day all of those things will work out when they are right, when you are true to yourself, and when you get out of your own way.
Recognize the role you play in your life. If the same patterns keep happening over and over again, realize that the only common denominator in those situations is YOU. For me, as few years ago I had a string of job issues that were not working out. Why? I was pursuing gigs that were not RIGHT for me. I’m a writer, not a tech recruiter. I’m a writer, not a data entry clerk. When I got real, so did my writing career.
I’m telling you from my own difficult learning experience that if you have to work that hard at figuring out why you aren’t feeling like it’s right or pretend to be someone you aren’t to make something work — it isn’t right. That is something I’ve learned in my career, with my family, in my friendships, and in my romantic relationships.
When you get all parts of your life in alignment with your true self — baby, it’s a beautiful life!