We were talking in the office today about things that scared us at first, but once we tried them, they ended up being pretty amazing. Things like:
- Bungee Jumping
- Wearing spandex on a date
During the conversation, something very interesting was said:
I was terrified of boxing! I thought it was gonna involve me getting hit in the face or big scary dudes grunting while they hit a heavy bag — but if I’d never gone, I’d never have figured out that it’s my favorite workout ever.
That’s the beauty of trying something new, especially if it scares us. Sometimes, the scariest thing is the thing that you need to do the most.
Overcoming scary things is a part of life. There’s always going to be things that you’d like to do, or that you have to do, that are going to trigger those feelings of fear. Overcoming those feelings will help build your self-confidence, and it will help you to overcome your fears when it matters most. After doing something you always thought was “scary”, you start to realize that a lot of that fear is in your head and there was nothing to be scared of at all!
Write down a list of things that scare you. We’re not talking about things like “spiders” (ew) or “heights”, but things that you’d like to do; things that, for whatever reason, scare you.
- Taking a new class
- Talking to that guy at the coffee shop
- Cooking a meal for your friends
Let’s take a look at the worst that could happen in each of these situations.
- Taking a new class – You don’t like the new class at all. Well guess what? Now you know that you’re not a fan of yoga or CrossFit or whatever it is. Check it off your list and move on to the next one! No more thinking “I might like ____ if I ever tried it!”
- Talking to that guy at the coffee shop – He turns out to be a total jerk. Well guess what? You went up and talked to a guy and didn’t burst into flames, didn’t you? Now the next time you see a guy (who’s probably not going to be a total jerk) you’ll remember that it wasn’t that hard to go up and say “Hi!”
- Cooking a meal for your friends – And you totally screw it up. You burn the food, the smoke detector goes off, and you end up having to order take-out. Well guess what? That’s going to be an amazing story, one that’ll bring you all closer together as friends, and one that you’ll tell a million times. You’ll laugh about how the wine you bought especially to pair with the duck ended up being pretty good paired with Chinese food too!
The worst case scenario isn’t even going to happen most of the time, which means that even if things go really wrong, you’re still getting something from it. You’re learning more about yourself, at the very least, and if things go well? You might just find your new favorite thing to do.
So go out there and do something that scares you!